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I landed my dream job – but I'm still miserable. Help!

The question:


I’ve started a new position, one that I called my dream job six months ago. Now that I’m here, I’m not feeling fulfilled and I get quite anxious every time I come into the office. My family and friends expect me to be excited, but I hate it. Can I just quit already?

 

The answer:

 

One of my favourite quotes is from the renowned Dr. Sigmund Freud: “love and work are the cornerstones of our humanness”. For many of us, our livelihood is an integral part of our overall sense of happiness and well-being.

 

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My boyfriend just wants to 'win' our fights. What's wrong with him?

The question:


When we fight, I feel like my boyfriend’s goal is to “win” the argument. How can I help him realize this doesn’t help either of us?

 

The answer:


Disagreeing with loved ones (whether a partner, friend, or family member) is a normal part of every human relationship. In fact, we tend to argue more with those that are closer to us, often as they tend to see both the good and bad parts of us, they see us during times of stress, and often our defences are much lower with the people we love.

 

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I might be attracted to women. Should I tell my boyfriend?

The question:


I’ve been in a relationship for many years with the same guy. I love him, but I’ve recently discovered I might be more attracted to members of the same sex. Should I tell him? Should I end it? Is there something psychologically wrong with me?

 

The answer:


First and foremost, there is absolutely nothing that is psychologically wrong with you for having questions about your sexual orientation.

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I count every calorie I consume. Is there anything wrong with that?

The question:


I count every calorie that I consume. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that – I just don’t ever want to be overweight. My parents/friends think it’s unhealthy and could lead to an eating disorder. What’s your stance?


The answer:


Issues around shape, weight and eating behaviours exist on a continuum. On one end, people may be completely unconcerned about their shape or weight, and eat with little concern or worry for what they are eating or how many calories they are consuming.

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